A woman without autonomy
It takes a lot of learning and understanding, to accept that as a man you have to let your woman operate under her own autonomy in some areas of her life. We need to be okay with them having a part of a life that is there own, a world in them that they knew before they met you. It is not not bad for a man to asert authority, but it is bad if he doesn't do it democratically. As a man when you tell her to declutter somethings, do you tell her so because what she is doing is not good, or just because you don't like what she's doing.
I have seen some men force their women to cut off all her male friends, from associates, acquitances,cousins and even colleagues. Some men put soo strict rules that she fails to live a life that is balanced and ends up living the life the man has scripted for her. I call this selfishness because many atimes when these men do this to their women, they tend not to perform as they told the woman. They keep women friends for themselves, family close, his boys, they also tend to rank their friend higher than their women.
When confronted by their women into why they are not doing what she is doing, the said men breath fire and they authoritatively say, "i am man". Where, that is supposed to mean that, i get to do what i want and you as the woman get to do what i want. Such women in this situation barely evolve in their womanhood, they cease to be productive, they are more passive than active, can't lay their minds on a table of policy enactments.
They are like slaves, a form of neocolonialism. When this man leaves the woman, she starts from zero, new friendships, amending broken relationships where their only mistake was to be her friend and "my man" doesn't want me to have friends. If this is the kind of man you have, then you should understand you're likely suffering from stunted growth in your femininity and womanhood, you still remain a child who is love with a grown up who wants to dictate the life for you.
